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Dear Unhappy Married Woman - If You Must Quit A Troubled Marriage? Do So Happy Moments Come And Go
DEAR UNHAPPY MARRIED WOMAN - If You Must Quit A Troubled Marriage? Do So by Starboy(m): Sat 16, October, 2021
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To go find your sanity/rediscover yourself,
To rebuild your life,
To develop yourself through empowerment or education.
But quitting a marriage because some man out there offered you a listening ear/comforting arms?
It’s most often a mistake!
It’s not the GOODNESS that anybody shows you (while someone else is taking the heat from your flaws) that counts.
A story that broke out some time back…they had been secret lovers (even while the Pastor was married) for many years but the moment they officially became ‘man and woman’ (after the Pastor became divorced)…their marriage packed up in less than four years.
My point?
Anybody can be all ‘doting’-so long as they do not have to experience ‘all of you’.
You know it’s TRUE LOVE when he has seen you in your lowest and still stays ‘doting’.
Men who gravitate towards married women often do so because they have phobia for commitment, and they find it ‘safer’ to have a relationship with someone whose (limited) ‘availability’ will not discomfort/inconvenience them.

A lot of them will not be as ‘available’…if you eventually become ‘fully’ available.

Isn’t it said that ‘’When you’re single, all you see are happy couples and when you are taken, all you see are happy singles.’’?
There are no waiting Romeos out there, Sisters!
‘’ Too many women refuse to find the larger part of their own happiness- from within self. They push that huge responsibility onto someone else and demand perfection from the ones they’ve chosen to burden. And when they stray, they soon find out that the “super hero” that hit the building was only passing through’’ Ebomah Peter
A lot of men (in this clime) don’t have ‘large hearts’…once a relationship entails certain baggage.
Ninety percent of the men you will meet out there are either taken or can’t deal your kind of baggage…on long term basis.
Five percent… you can’t deal, as most of them have (even) more complex baggage.
The other five percent?
You never know!
But have faith.
When a relationship is troubled and you roll up your sleeves to give it a push,
If it eventually succeeds…your emotional health receives a huge dose of ‘stability’ booster!
But if the center can no longer hold in anyway, please be courageous enough to go your way.
Yes, go find yourself again.
And keep an open mind…as life always has a lot up its sleeves.
Wear the garb of positivity but not desperation.
Being realistic does not deter optimism!
Finally,
Learn to seek HELP (through counseling/therapies).
It’s a more productive effort than splashing stuff on the social media.
I understand the impulse (to damn everything and everyone) that accompanies a ‘rotten mood’,
But ‘’this too will pass’’.

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